You can spend lots of time fixing up your looks, book dinner reservations at an expensive restaurant or find the best bar in town, and make all the money you want, but when it comes to truly attracting a person, it all comes down to your conversation. It can be very frustrating when your conversations seem to always go nowhere, resulting in large awkward silences before the 2 of you part ways. The problem here is that you’re focusing on the wrong conversation topics for dates. Fortunately, this is an easy fix.
By making use of the following 7 good conversation topics for dates, you’ll be able to turn your conversations from good to great.
1. When you were kids
No matter what your age, your childhood will always hold a special place in your heart. By opening up to your date and letting them know about your journey through life, not only will you show them your emotional side, but they’ll also be able to relate. By opening up the doors for conversation topics about childhood, they’ll have their own experiences to share, which will allow them to contribute lots to the conversation as well.
2. What you’re passionate about
There are 2 reasons that this is the easiest topic to use. First off, it once again allows your date to see your emotional side, something that will only help to win them over. Secondly, it gives you something to talk about that you actually enjoy talking about! This will help take the weight off the conversation. In the same way, once you’ve talked about your passions, guide the conversation in the direction of theirs. Ask them lots of questions about what they like to do. Afterwards, when they think back on the conversation the two of you had, they’ll remember it being lots of fun because they were able to talk about the things they love.
3. The people around you
Because you’re talking to someone you’ve spent very little time with, you won’t have lots of common experiences that you can work with… except for your current experience. Discuss your surroundings to form a bond with them, whether it’s the kind of bar you’re currently at, the food at the restaurant, or the people around you. One thing that’s great to do when you’re talking to a woman or man is to come up with back stories for the strangers around you. This puts the two of you in a collaborative mood and also gives you an opportunity to show them your creative side.
4. Their ambitions
While telling someone about your job and your past is good, people place a lot of value on where their partner is going in life. But more importantly, you’ll want to get your date to talk about their own future ambitions. This, once again, steers the conversation in their direction, allowing them to talk about themselves. Plus, it will also boost the emotional state of the conversation, since it’s impossible to talk about ambitions without feeling a little excited.
5. Their travels
Travel is always a fun conversation topic, but this is where you want to step back and let the other person talk. While you may have traveled to some amazing places, and may have lots of stories from those adventures, too many of these and it’ll seem like you’re trying too hard to impress them. Instead of doing that, start off by talking about your travels and then start asking about their travel stories. This will reveal your date’s various passions, desires, world views, etc. which you can call back on later in the conversation.
6. Your life lessons
While this isn’t really a “topic”, it is important to ask yourself throughout your conversations, what has this lesson taught me? By having depth to all your conversation topics, not only are you showing the depth of your own thought (something women and men like finding in a potential partner), but you’re also once again opening up more doors in the conversation. Rather than just telling someone about your 8th grade fight (one topic), you can talk about what was going through your mind at the time and the lessons you’ve learnt from the experience (many topics). This will get the conversation expanding on its own.
7. Your thoughts on pop culture/current events
If you ever find yourself having a tough time coming up with things to talk about, you can always bring up your thoughts on pop culture or current events to avoid any awkward silences. However, you’ll want to avoid using this conversation topic too often or you’ll be perceived as boring and having no depth.
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