We all go through tough times. Even the lion-hearted champions who roar with ferocity at whatever comes their way, go through bad stretches. It’s all part of being alive. But before we get into what to do when your life sucks, it’s worth noting that bad stretches are not all created equal.
Sometimes it’s a temporary thing that you will overcome as time passes, other times it’s a recipe for disaster that will just get worse and worse. The temporary hurdles require patience and persistence, while the recipes for disaster may call for a complete overhaul on your way of living.
How can you tell the two apart? Well, here are the signs that it’s time for a change:
When you wake up in the morning, you’re not jumping out of bed, ready to take on the day.
Ok, I’ll be realistic here and point out that yes, everyone does have bad days. The truth is that every day isn’t going to be an upbeat, empowering adventure. However, if you’re spending most days being somewhat miserable and unmotivated about the things you do, and it’s been like this for a while, then it’s definitely time for a change.
Life is way too short for it to suck, and if you keep going about your days doing things you loathe, you’re going to get burnt out.
What you’re doing now doesn’t build up your future
One of the most powerful things you can do to train your mind is to visualize your ideal future. Picture what you’d be doing on a daily basis. Picture your relationships with other people. Picture the things you will have. Picture how you’re feeling day to day.
Then take a look at how things are now.
No doubt there’s a gap, and your job is to close it. Start by creating a roadmap to guide you to that ideal life, which means praising yourself for each and every achievement, and building upon them until you finally get to where you want to be.
Take note of where you currently are: What can you do to build upon it? Or, is this path you’re currently heading down largely different from the path that would lead you to your ideal future?
If it’s the latter, you’ve got to do something differently. The longer you put it off, the harder it will get.
Do not fear a life overhaul
I won’t lie and say that life overhauls are easy, they can be pretty scary. They mean you’re making big changes: In your relationships, your job, your home, your philosophy on life… It definitely takes balls, but do not fear it.
Far too often, people are concerned that making these changes are going to leave them worse off than they were before. They’re concerned about losing the things they already have.
This psychological reaction is very common. You have something, and don’t want to wind up having nothing. Something is better than nothing.
But here’s the thing: It actually doesn’t work that way.
If you’re reading this article because you’re wondering what to do when your life sucks, or even if your life is just kind of meh, then the chances of leading a fulfilling existence are next to nothing. And if your chances of a fulfilling life are next to nothing, then making this life overhaul cannot possibly be any worse in that respect. Even if you’ve chosen some changes completely at random, your life would be much more likely to improve.
But you won’t be making random changes. You’re making calculated decisions.
The majority of people tend to sell themselves short. They’ll settle for less than what they deserve, and sway themselves into believing that it’s just fine, even when in actuality it’s nowhere near fine.
Don’t be like those people. Never settle for less than you deserve.
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